I haven’t dealt with pimples or acnes in my life. It is funny when I think of it - life is
rough but skin isn’t. It was not until
Rayyan entered standard 10th did I come face to face with pimples,
literally. Initially, there were tiny buds on his forehead and cheek. They would
come up and go away on their own. Neither was Rayyan bothered by them, nor did I
give it a second thought. After all, only the burnt child dreads the fire.
Watch closely and you will see budding pimples on his skin |
It could be the stress of being in 10th, or just
the age factor, either way; soon the pimples were running amok on Rayyan’s
smooth face which was not smooth anymore. We went for all the anti-pimples
cream, natural remedies and even a prescription from a dermatologist; unfortunately
the pimples continued their assault on his face. Though they say every mother
finds her baby beautiful, I recall not wanting to look at him even when he was
talking to me.
Amusingly, Rayyan like always was unfettered or untroubled –
even by the ugly pimples on his face. He was not even bothered with
finding some way of getting rid of them, whereas I was quite disturbed by those pimples.
Finally, I suggested him to wash his face often, especially with a deep
cleansing face wash which could remove grime and dirt from his skin. This worked
to some extent. The dramatic change was seen when he started swimming in sea
more often. Later on, Rayyan continued to wash his face as often as possible to
keep pimples at bay. So everyone lived happily ever after? Oh no! This is not a
fairy tale.
When the pimples were on back foot, we planned to visit USA.
For some reason, we never gave a thought
to the face wash when we left. Within a couple of weeks, the pimples came back
with a vengeance. We rushed to the Wal-Mart to find a good face wash for
Rayyan, but unfortunately we did not find what we were looking for. The face
wash we found there were very mild and was not effective. My friend Paula
informed us that safety norms in USA were much higher than in India, so the
facewash we found there could never be strong enough for Rayyan, especially because of the facewash he was used to in India. Among all the chaos created by me and my
friend Paula frantically trying to control the pimples, Rayyan went about enjoying his life as though
nothing had happened.
Saving the tortoise from being run over, but not saving his face! |
His calm started to bother me. Finally, I and Paula planned
a 'no sweet, no ice-cream, no chocolate, no cream' diet for him and sat him down for
the talk. We wanted to explain to him how he should take care of his pimples to
protect his face from scarring. He shouldn't be neglecting pimples like he was
doing. Rayyan refused to follow any diet or be worried about his pimples. He said,
“They are not going to do anything much until I decide to become sad and worried
because of them. Usually pimples go away after sometime and I have to learn to
deal with them until then”. Not to give
up so easily, we tried explaining to him, but he cut us short and said, “Isn't
it surprising that you two women are worried about my pimples when you have
fought cancer and won over it. How can you expect me to be in your company and
worry about pimples”? FACEPALM!
I will have good time .. with pimples or without them |
We left him alone after that, but also realized how much of
wisdom he had picked from people around him. We both were so proud of our boy.
Rayyan enjoyed his visit to our friends in USA without even giving a thought to
the pimples.
When he came back to India, he found a face wash that could keep his pimples at bay once again. As he crossed the 21 year mark, the pimples started to fade as well. Today, occasionally a pimple here or a pimple there erupts on his face. But like always, Rayyan doesn't give them a hoot. He just maintains his skin clean and let that work the best for him.
Pimples cannot steal your smile... |
When he came back to India, he found a face wash that could keep his pimples at bay once again. As he crossed the 21 year mark, the pimples started to fade as well. Today, occasionally a pimple here or a pimple there erupts on his face. But like always, Rayyan doesn't give them a hoot. He just maintains his skin clean and let that work the best for him.
Rayyan lives by the principle of Eric Davis who said, “Life
is too short to worry about anything. You had better enjoy it because the next
day promises nothing”.
I love myself.. pimples and all! |
I have learned so much from this young man who I am so proud
to call my son. What best lesson can we learn other than to be happy by making
the best of what we have without breaking our heads over tiny troubles that are
part and parcel of our life?
All is well that ends well... |
I liked Rayyan's carefree attitude.
ReplyDeleteloved how you have documented your sons entire acne journey...
ReplyDeletep.s. the video was a nice touch, really informative.
My 19 year old daughter has an acne problem. My husband was much like you and kept at her about using certain products and going to a dermatologist. My daughter doesn't seem to be as bothered, but now that she is in college, she probably does but does not let us know. Fortunately, she can use makeup.
ReplyDeleteI try not to focus on it, because like your wise son, I try to put things into perspective.
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