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Good parenting may be the toughest job in the world, but
fortunately the reward is a healthy and happy child, which makes the tough task
worth it. Though the area of parenting has been extensively researched, there
is no sure way to tell what is right or wrong. Every child is a unique
individual which makes their needs different from others. Here are the 10 ways
that works for good parenting universally.
10. Adapt Peacefully To
Changes in Life
Parents are often frustrated with the changes they have to make due to
the entry of children in their life. Parents at times have to sacrifice their
flourishing careers to take care of their children. As babies, they change the
sleeping pattern, followed by terrible twos, and nothing beats the teen years.
Preparing yourself for the change is the best way to deal with the frustrations
that come with a child in life.
9. Accept Your Child for What S/He Is
Accepting the child for what they are is the first step on the road to
peaceful parenting. When parents try to change their children into something
they cannot be, it is not just tiring and exasperating experience for the
parents, but also wears out the children. Every individual is born with some
inbuilt talent and potential. It is for the parents to discover this talent and
unwrap it slowly for success of the child.
8. Give Loads of Love
You can never spoil the child with too much of love. It is when you try
to replace your love, attention and companionship with material things that you
will spoil the child. Loving a child unconditionally is the right thing to do.
Some parents confuse pampering and indulgence with love, which is unhealthy for
the development of the child.
7. Spend Quality Time with
Your Child
Just being with your child, while you watch television, surf on net or
think about something is not counted as giving attention. Be there physically
and mentally with your child, so that they feel connected with you. If there
are more children at home, don’t make anyone feel left out. Keep in mind that
being with your child does not mean you hover over them all the time and
smother them with your presence.
6. Rules are Not Meant To Be
Broken
Do not be enthusiastic with setting rules in your home which are bent or
broken for convenience. Have few rules which are supposed to be followed
strictly. Many parents worry that their children will not love them for setting
limitations and boundaries. Research has found that children like the rules as
it makes them feel cared, protected and loved by their parents. Do not give in
when children cry or try to manipulate you to break the rules just for once.
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5. Improve Your Communication
Skill
Communicating with children is easy if you say exactly what you mean to
say. Often parents try to beat around the bush, drop hints or use sarcasm which
does not work well with children. Communication need not be always talking, as
listening to your child and being approachable is another form of
communication. Your response, body language and tone talks more to than your
words, as children have keen sense of observation.
4. Be Part of Your Child’s
Life
Take interest in not just the studies or achievements of your child, but
be a part of their interests, hobbies and friends. Do not ridicule if they show
interest in something which you are not interested like music, movies, books or
even friends. Respect their choice, though when you feel your child is not safe
you can always create awareness in them. Never criticize or be judgmental about
your child’s leisure pursuits, passion or friends as that will give vent to
rebellion in them.
3. Be Patient and Check Your
Response
Even a very loving and affectionate parent drop their guard and respond
with a loud “WHAT?” to a confession of less marks, broken vase, spilled bottle
of jam on carpet and many other such incidents. The fear of wrath will lead the
child to hide things and lie to the parent. Being patient and responding calmly
but sternly will have positive effect on the child. Staying calm when the child
has broken the precious gift your Mom gave you may be very difficult, but then
being a parent is not an easy job. Try to explain the consequences of their
action to the child and it is not bad to tell them how hurt you are.
2. Say Sorry and Admit When
You Are Wrong
Just because you are the parent and have more life experience than the
child, it need not mean that you are always right. Many times children catch
their parents on the wrong foot. At such times it is best to say sorry and
apologize. You do not lose respect of the child by saying sorry, but you surely
will when you do not want to admit your mistakes but try to give reasons. Know
that the child will learn the same and pay you back with same coin later in
life.
1. Trust and Respect Your Child
Though children need love, care and affection, not many realize that they
need to be trusted and respected by the people they love and respect the most,
i.e. their parents. Giving them responsibilities, involving them in decision
making, listening to them and allowing them privacy when they need it is
showing respect and trust and not doing what they want you do. Respect and
trust is successful in disciplining children than punishments, criticism,
bribes, threats or rewards.
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