Those were the days filled with fun, studies and games. Time just flew past me from morning till evening, without internet or TV. Hmmm
.....pick up that jaw which you have dropped down, because life without TV and
Internet can be fun too, or at least it was in my childhood.
I loved school and books. My mom used to have our hair cut
short and trimmed often, so that it would be easy for her to manage time in the
morning more than as a fashion statement. Without the shampoos to turn our
hairs silky, it was a great ordeal in the morning to comb and tie up our hair neatly. In addition, when left alone, the hair would turn coarse with lots of
split ends because we did not have the ‘Dove Split End Rescue System’ back
then.
Once I was in first standard, I decided I was grown up enough
to have plaits of my own. Somehow, I was cajoled, given a chocolate and taken
to the barber for trimming my hair. Half way through the hair cut I decided I
did not want short hair and started to wail at the top of my voice. The barber
snipped his hands, mumbled at first and then loudly growled at my aunt.
My aunt who had accompanied me as my sister refused, tried
to console me, and said in a soft voice somehow she could manage, “Beti, people
will make fun of you if you don’t cut your hair now. Have you seen anyone with
half trimmed hair?” I replied between
sobs, “I do not want short hair. Stick back the hair you have cut from my head
and make it look nice once again”. I started to wail louder now. Two people who
were waiting to get their hair cut left, another started pulling out his hair
vehemently. The barber looked around for some solution, and then started
peering at the knife he kept on the table.
My aunt promised me 5 big chocolates if I went ahead and had
my hair cut to which I succumbed once again. With mouth shut, but tears still
dripping I was given a hair cut which looked quite weird. When questioned by my
aunt, the barber gave her such a nasty look that she paid him and walked out
quietly.
Back home, they decided that they will allow me to grow
hair, horn or whatever I wanted on my head to avoid those loud screeching wails
in public places.
The drama I created in the barber shop had given me two
thick pony tails by the end of the second standard and memories to be treasured
forever due to an incident which happened later, which was directly connected
to my ponytails. My hair was so thick that it could not be plaited when it was
short. Two white ribbons adorned my head, and I loved them.
When I stood first in my second standard final exams, my
father presented me a wrist watch which was beautiful. After a few months of
watching over the watch at home I decided to wear it to school. I wasn't very
sure because I was still in third standard (Indian way of grading) and no one
sported watches that early. Some students in 6th or 7th std wore them but not
lower class students. Any way I went ahead and wore the watch as it was a gift for my
achievement and it made me proud.
What I did not know back then was that wrist watches were
worn on left hand, therefore I strapped it on my right hand and marched to
school, as two pony tails bounced happily on my head. The response was good.
All congratulated me and they said it was very pretty. No one could make out I
was wearing it on the wrong hand. Most of my classmates asked me for time and I
proudly told them what time it was. Life couldn't be better than this.
At break, I finished my lunch quickly and then sat at my
favorite spot reading a comic which I had brought along with me. After all the attention I got in the morning,
I wanted to be alone and quite for some time. It was when I was totally
immersed in the comic book pictures that this boy arrived haughtily on his
bicycle and asked me what the time was. I hesitated a while, why should I
answer him, but then replied “one seven”, at which point he burst out laughing.
I felt embarrassed that may be I did not read the time properly and looked
again at my watch. I knew I was right.
Then he said, “Silly girl, no one says one seven one eight etc. they say one, one five, one ten and so on. And you are wearing your watch on the wrong hand. Why don’t you learn to wear it properly and also to read the time before showing it off?”
Then he said, “Silly girl, no one says one seven one eight etc. they say one, one five, one ten and so on. And you are wearing your watch on the wrong hand. Why don’t you learn to wear it properly and also to read the time before showing it off?”
He had provoked the terrible anger in me and now we both were in trouble for sure, because, whenever I was angry I landed in trouble and he had to be trouble because he was the source of it. I felt the heat burning my cheeks. I felt an urge to say something mean to him but couldn't find words to express my anger.
At last I blurted “If
you are that smart then make one of those many mothers you have to present you
a watch and stop asking me the time”.
I didn't knew what happened next because there was sudden
change in his expression … It was as though I had taken a knife and put it
through his heart. Before that, if someone told me people can physically change
colors I would not have believed them but he changed few hues and then looked so dark all of
sudden that I was scared. I put up the
bravest face I could manage and looked him straight avoiding only his eyes.
He slowly came over to me, caught hold of my precious pony
tail and pulled it so hard that I had shooting pain not only in my head but
also in my neck. I thought I must have lost the pony tail for which I had
fought so hard two years ago.
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I could not believe that someone could dare
to pull my precious hair. My teachers did not punish me nor did my parents for
silly things. No one ever had touched my hair since the barber incident; other
than my mother who combed it every morning. And here, someone just walked up
asking about time, making fun of me and
now was walking away after hurting me so bad. I wanted to pluck every single
strand of hair from his scalp, but I did not dare to touch him because he had
appeared very wild for a while. Even before this happened I was a bit afraid of
him, as he came to our school occasionally from nowhere. Our Physical Trainer
who was in charge of discipline during the lunch period was absent for that day
and I did know whom to approach.
At last I went to the office room of the school and sat
crying as I couldn't find anyone in there either. I involuntarily changed the
watch and strapped on my left hand. In a
short while the mother superior of the convent, Mother Claudia walked in.Oh No!
My heart skipped few beats. Everyone was afraid of her. She was the most stern
of all the staff. Short, a bit stout with white hair peeking out from the head
scarf, she sent a shiver down my spine and all of a sudden I wanted to forget
everything and go back.
Somehow there was no escape as she would ask me why I was in
office room, moreover, I just couldn't let the matter end like that. So I
became bold enough to talk to her, though it was the first time I was going to
talk to her. She approached me and looked at me and asked me what the matter
was that I was in the office room crying. Her voice was kind and soft which encouraged
me to talk. In between sobs I narrated the incident, making a slight change
that I had only asked him to buy a watch of his own when he suddenly attacked
me.
She had me seated near her and sent for him. Meanwhile she
told me that was a beautiful watch I was wearing. I told her it was a gift from
my dad for standing first. At this point she smiled and said she was very happy
with the way I had written my exams. I was surprised to know that she had seen
my papers and moreover remembered them. She said my papers were so good that my
teacher Mary had shown it to her and she was very amazed by the fact that there
were no mistakes at all.
Mother superior
started to open the ledger in front of her thinking it was the end of the
matter. I was aghast. I expected something more from her as she was known for
harsh punishment to erring students. I had already become bold and so went on
“mother he pulled my hair”. She looked up at me quizzically. I fumbled for
words but said something which sounded like
“I want you to pull his hair too, because he has hurt me and if by saying
sorry he can get away with it then he will do it again”. Mother was surprised
and amused to hear me talk like that. She said calmly, “I can’t pull his hair.
He has realized that he has made a mistake and he has sincerely apologized. You
can now go back to your class”.
“No I won’t go back to my class until he is punished. Even
before he pulled my hair I hated him, and now I want him punished”.
“Why? ” asked Mother Claudia, but even before the word was out of her mouth I had started off,“Because God has given him everything. It is not fair for someone to be perfect when others are not. He can play well, he is not afraid, and he is very beautiful. I hate his perfect face and feel like scratching it to make it look normal. I hate him. You all shower so much of love on him. He should be punished more………..” I just blurted everything out very fast and suddenly stopped fearing the outcome of this outburst and stood staring at the floor. To my astonishment I heard nothing. I looked up to find the mother smiling broadly at me and also the boy was smiling now. I got confused as to why it was so. Mother said slowly “if I pull your hair will you say something nice to me?” and she laughed openly now. The first time I had seen her laugh. She slowly pulled my hair and said “you sure have a way of praising people”. It was then that he walked to me bent his head and said “ OK. Here. Pull my hair as hard as you want”. I don’t know why I did not feel like pulling his hair. For one, he was a big boy and it appeared silly of me to pull his hair right then. I said “ OK, I will accept the sorry. I will go back to my class now. Thank you mother”. I was feeling uncomfortable and uneasy and wanted to bolt out of there as soon as possible, though I did not know what had happened.
So that is how it began. From then on whenever mother
superior was near me she would slightly tug my pony tail and give me a
questioning look, which said "What do you have to say about me?"
The boy later approached me when I was walking towards my
class and said in a sincere voice,“I am so sorry I made fun of you. You are
really very bold girl directly complaining to mother superior. But I want to
thank you for what you said. I never thought someone could be jealous of me. I
am an orphan and I live in Abhayadhama. There are people who pity me a lot but
you are the first person who got jealous of me. It made me feel good”.
I did not say anything much that day, because I was confused
with so many different things happening within the short span of 23 minutes –
yeah I had checked the time on my new watch. By realizing that he was from an
orphanage connected to our school, took out my negative feelings for him and I
could now really appreciate his good qualities.
So that is how the tragic tale of my ponytails ended in a
happy ending…
:) nice post...all the best for the contest
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I checked out your lovely post.
DeleteFARIDA..your stories never fail to amaze me.. This blog reads like a chapter in a novel.. Which,of course is utterly silly to say considering it IS the Chapters of Your Life. The wisdom of the Mother Superior and the "boy who thought no one would ever be jealous of him" are almost beyond belief. But only "almost".. because then there is this little girl with the smart brain and great courage who dares to let out what is in her heart. I love that about you. :) I can only still be even more amazed that you got past the security when coming to US.. "What, do I look like a terrorist? " lol. Now I know even better this girl who cannot keep her soul under wraps.. it must be bared. Thank you for sharing this great blog and it's a winner on many levels.. xoxdebbo
ReplyDeleteI still do say things with out actually knowing what I am saying.. I have never learned the diplomacy Deb, but I do not regret it either ;)
DeleteMy daughter used to wail at the beautician's place. :)
ReplyDeleteMemorable incident. Great narration.
I hated the barber more because he used to threaten to cut my ears off if I troubled him.
DeleteVery well written. I loved reading it.
ReplyDeleteThanks. It was performed in a better way than I have written it LOL
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hehee it was fun reading it Farida... and good luck for the contest :)
ReplyDeleteYes it looks funny now.. back then it wasn't
DeleteWow
ReplyDeleteI loved this farida. I could almost imagine a miniature you
Thr mother , boy , school and your curly pony tails !!!
This was such a nice revival
Thanks Afshan.. I was a troublesome fiery girl in my childhood.
DeleteLoved reading it, what a cute story!
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